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When Cancer Makes You Lose Friends

Dealing with cancer can be one of the toughest challenges life throws at you. But it can be even harder when you're losing friends over it. Some people just don't get it and say some really weird things. It's important to remember that you deserve supportive friends during this difficult time.

They Just Don't Get It

Insensitive Friends

Some friends just can't understand what you're going through and say things like "Well, at least you get a free boob." Remember, their ignorance is not your fault.

False Empathy

Other friends pretend to understand but actually minimize your feelings. A good friend will listen and validate your emotions.

Meaningless Comparisons

Comparing cancer to other things like a bad breakup or a tough day at work is not helpful, even if it's well-intentioned.

Weird Comments About Cancer

"Cancer Can't Be That Bad"

When people don't take your illness seriously, it can be really upsetting. Cancer is always a serious situation that requires support.

"Wow, You Look Terrible"

Comments about your appearance can be hurtful. But it's important to remember that people may not know what to say in such a difficult situation.

"At Least It's Not Terminal"

Even if your cancer diagnosis is not terminal, it's still a serious situation that requires support. It's not a time for minimizing the situation.

Being Young and Lonely During Cancer

Being diagnosed with cancer at a young age can be particularly isolating. It's normal to feel overwhelmed, but there are ways to cope.

Connect with Young Adult Cancer Groups

Find others in your same situation with resources like Stupid Cancer or Young Survival Coalition.

Talk to Friends or a Professional

It's important to have someone to talk to. A professional counselor or therapist can also be a great option.

Invest in Self-care

Take care of yourself by getting regular exercise, eating healthy, and doing things that bring you joy.

Shitty Friends

When you're going through cancer, it's easy to feel down. But having friends who make you feel worse is unacceptable. Here are some signs you may have shitty friends.

They Don't Ask About Your Treatment

Good friends will ask how you're doing and show genuine concern.

They Disappear When You Need Them Most

When you're dealing with cancer, you need friends who are there for you. If someone disappears when things get tough, they're not a good friend.

They Make You Feel Bad About Yourself

Being around people who make you feel worse is never a good thing. You deserve friends who are supportive and kind.

Coping with Loneliness

Dealing with feelings of loneliness and isolation is common among those with cancer. But you don't have to go through it alone.

Stay Connected

Use technology to stay in touch with loved ones. Phone calls, texts, and video chats can make a big difference.

Join Supportive Networks

Find local or online support groups for people dealing with cancer. There are also many non-profit organizations with resources and services.

Volunteer or Attend Events

Getting involved with volunteering or attending community events can be a great way to meet new people and feel a sense of purpose.

Importance of Supportive Friends

Having a strong support system can make all the difference when dealing with cancer. Here are some ways supportive friends can help.

Emotional Support

Friends who listen, validate your feelings, and provide a shoulder to cry on can make a huge emotional impact.

Practical Support

Friends who help with rides, cleaning, or cooking can help reduce the burden of treatment.

Wellness Support

Friends who encourage exercise, healthy habits, and join you in activities you enjoy can have a big positive impact.


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