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Surviving Breast Cancer Overcoming Body Image and Identity Struggles

Battling cancer can take a toll on a person's body and mind, especially when it comes to losing a part of oneself. In this article, we’ll take a closer look at the physical and emotional impact of breast cancer and how to move past the struggle with self-acceptance and identity

The Initial Diagnosis and Treatment

When I first discovered I had breast cancer, I was terrified. The stress and grief only deepened as I underwent surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation. My body suffered, and so did my self-esteem. The experience was overwhelming, but I'm grateful to have come out the other side.

Physical Effects

The treatment of breast cancer takes an enormous toll on the body. Hair loss, pain, fatigue, nausea, and reduced mobility are common side effects that can further exacerbate the sense of loss.

Emotional Effects

It's not just the physical pain, but the emotional impact of cancer that can be overwhelming. Depression, anxiety, fear, and isolation are common emotions that come from a new diagnosis.

Impact on Body Image and Self-Esteem

“Losing one or both breasts can cause significant distress to women with breast cancer. Their breasts are an essential part of their femininity, sexuality and body image.” - Dana-Farber Cancer Institute

The loss of breasts can be deeply distressing for those who spent years being comfortable in their bodies. It may affect their confidence around their partners or the way they view themselves. Breast reconstruction may help with the physical appearance, but it takes time to adjust to a new normal.

Art, photography, and writing can help women come to terms with the changes in their bodies and find beauty in imperfection.

Struggle with Identity and Self-Acceptance

For many women, having a loss of breasts because of cancer can cause a significant identity crisis. They may feel lost and disconnected from their own body, unsure of who they are in the world. That's why having a solid support system is crucial, such as a counselor or therapist, family, or support groups. They can encourage self-love, healing, and positivity.

Embrace Imperfection

Recognize that perfectionism is impossible. Beauty comes from imperfection.

Forgive Yourself

Forgiving yourself for having cancer or loss of breasts is an essential step in developing self-acceptance and self-love.

Remember Your Strength

Going through breast cancer treatment is a testimony to one's courage and strength. Celebrate that strength in yourself, and don't forget how far you’ve come in your journey.

Fear for the Future


The fear of recurrence always looms for those with breast cancer, even if they are currently in remission. Regular visits with a doctor may provide comfort and reassurance.

Survivor's Guilt

It is common to feel guilt - both for those who have lost their lives to cancer and those who are still fighting the battle. Finding ways to honor one's experience can provide comfort.

Decision for Mastectomy

The decision to have a mastectomy can be a difficult one, but it may be the best course for your health. Women have different reasons for choosing the procedure, including reducing the risk of recurrence, having peace of mind, and avoiding radiation therapy. Whatever the reason, the choice should be respected and supported by loved ones.

Meditation and mindfulness practices like deep breathing and visualization can help calm your mind and assess the situation more objectively, without the overwhelming emotions involved.

Mixed Emotions and Missing Old Body

After having surgery, it's natural to grieve the loss of your previous body and feel conflicted about the choices you made. It's okay to have mixed emotions about the situation. Reach out to family, friends, or support groups for comfort and understanding.

“Cancer can take away all of my physical abilities. It cannot touch my mind, it cannot touch my heart, and it cannot touch my soul.” - Jim Valvano

Although losing a part of yourself isn't easy, it's important to focus on the things that cancer can't touch, including your spirit, your passion, and your perseverance. Give yourself time, grace, and love.

Hope for Healing and Moving Forward

Surviving breast cancer is not only about the physical strength but also the whole-heartedness one puts into the healing process. Embracing life after cancer is key. For some, it can become a renewed appreciation of life, and for others, a calling for advocacy and community-building.


Get at least 30 minutes of moderate activity each day to boost your mental and physical health. Exercise can help with sleep, mood, weight management, and more.


Eating a healthy and balanced diet can enhance the healing process, improve energy levels, and reduce the risk of other chronic health conditions.


Practice self-care activities that help you relax and boost your mood, such as journaling, art, meditation, and spending time with loved ones.

There’s an entire community out there filled with people who understand the struggles and that want to help. Take one day at a time and never lose hope for a bright future.


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